i'll admit it right here. i'm a people pleaser. i wish i weren't, but that's how i've spent most of my life - worrying about what people think of me. one day i'll get over it, but for now, that's my Achilles' Heel.
when i write, it works its way in and keeps me from writing. "will the people who read Eldala like this one? will they be ok that i've changed my writing style? will they like this story? will they like it as much as the first one?" no wonder i get stuck. i'm trying to be perfect.
now, i should know that the people who really count (friends and family) are going to like it no matter what. but i still don't want to be writing it for them. and though i've faced hardly any criticism from people i don't know for the first one, i shouldn't be worrying about them. but i still do, a little.
now, i know some of you who have several books out there, and have a wider audience than i do, have faced critics. for you (and a little for me), i thought of these quotes today:
from Ratatouille - "In many ways, the work of a critic is easy. We risk very little yet enjoy a position over those who offer up their work and their selves to our judgment. We thrive on negative criticism, which is fun to write and to read. But the bitter truth we critics must face, is that in the grand scheme of things, the average piece of junk is probably more meaningful than our criticism designating it so."
and then i thought of the speech by Teddy Roosevelt about the Man in the Arena. when i looked it up, i found a couple of quotes that are more applicable to writing -
"...the man who really counts in the world is the doer, not the mere critic - the man who actually does the work, even if roughly and imperfectly, not the man who only talks or writes about how it ought to be done." (1891)
"Criticism is necessary and useful; it is often indispensable; but it can never take the place of action, or be even a poor substitute for it. The function of the mere critic is of very subordinate usefulness. It is the doer of deeds who actually counts in the battle for life, and not the man who looks on and says how the fight ought to be fought, without himself sharing the stress and the danger." (1894)
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