the question for this month is: How do you celebrate when you achieve a writing goal/ finish a story?
i'm going to turn that around and ask: "How do you treat yourself when you haven't achieved your writing goals or finished a story?"
i started working on my sequel in 2009. i expected to have it published in 2011 (when i re-formatted my book in 2010, i even put a teaser prologue in the back and said, "Coming in 2011." ouch.)
9 years later and guess what? i have 5 drafts. i don't even want to count how many words that is. i've talked on this blog numerous times how i want to get it done. how i'm GOING TO GET IT DONE! i've tried to motivate myself any way i could possibly think of.
it still isn't done. i have NO IDEA when i'll finish.
i haven't handled it well.
a lot of things have come up in those 9 years. we moved Phoenix, Arizona to Montana. i was depressed for several years after i got here. i've had health problems. i had a surgery in August and it took a lot longer than expected to recover. now i'm doing physical therapy. in the midst of all this there are errands to run, appointments to get to, kids to educate, and life to live.
if any of my friends were to relate that story to me, i would have the utmost compassion for them. i would encourage them. i WOULD NOT get on their case about it. but that's what i do to myself. i've been that way for a long time.
it's time to stop. i'm not going to get the book done by acting like a drill sergeant towards myself. i need to be kind and compassionate with myself. i need to celebrate that i made it through all those difficulties and i'm still showing up to live on most days.
and maybe i need some chocolate. it's been a long time since i had chocolate.
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